Showing posts with label teenager. Show all posts
Showing posts with label teenager. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Pumpkin eating baby



 We have had a couple of activities for Halloween already and today I am going to my daughter’s school to carve pumpkins.  I think it is technically part of her science class.  I will have to update you later.  I found a friend to watch Jujube, but I am bringing the baby with me.  I had to laugh when my instructions said to be prepared to get messy.  I will be wearing the baby in my Moby wrap.   We will see if baby eats pumpkin.

Many of you have heard how much I enjoy the spacing of our children.  We have 7 years between the two middle kids.  I always wanted four kids (or more) and my husband thought he would enjoy two sets of two.  The timing also allowed me to go to school to become a nurse practitioner between babies.  The girls are big enough to help out a lot and give me more flexibility to have mom time.

I am finding Halloween is a slight downside.  Last year I took all the kids with friends who also had kids with a wide range of ages.  We had a lot of fun.  But this year we don't have friends like this to share Halloween.  Jujube (and I) got tired before the girls were done gathering candy last year.  I guess they decided to solve this problem by finding friends to trick or treat with.  They will have fun.  But they are growing up.  I am a little sad as it is the first time that I won't be going with them.  Tonight, when its cold and rainy and my husband takes Jujube out early and I stay warm with the baby, maybe I will feel better.  I think I will spend the time making pumpkin pie.  And if baby hasn't had his fill already maybe he can try some pumpkin before it turns into pie.

Anyway, here are some photos.




Monday, October 1, 2012

Middle School Girls Achievement and Risks

Friday I wrote about why I am now a stay at home mom. And I talked about an article I read in 2003 that influenced my decision. I still have not been able to find that article, but I have looked at several more recent ones and have some highlights for you.
 Substance Use among Early Adolescent Girls: Risk and Protective Factors
1. Girls whose mothers know where they are after school are less likely to use alcohol.
2. Girls whose mothers know their friends are less likely to use alcohol or prescription drugs.
3. Girls who can always reach their mothers are less likely to use alcohol, prescription drugs or inhalants.
4. Girls who go home after school are less likely to use alcohol or prescription drugs.

 The Formative Years: Pathways to Substance Abuse Among Girls And Young Women Ages 8-22
 1. Girls with highly involved parents and parents who provide positive feedback are less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.
2. Girls who feel they can talk with their parents and who do not have frequent arguments with their parents are less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.
3. Teens who consider religious beliefs important are almost three times less likely to drink, binge drink and smoke
 4. Teens who consider religious beliefs important almost four times less likely to use marijuana and seven times likelier to use illicit drugs.
 5. Teens who never attend religious services are more than twice as likely to smoke
6. Teens who never attend religious services twice as likely to drink.
7. Teens who never attend religious services are three times more likely to use marijuana and binge drink
8. Teens who never attend religious services are almost four times more likely to use illicit drugs
9. Girls who do not participate in any extracurricular activities are twice as likely to report current smoking (25.5 percent vs. 12.4 percent) and are also likelier to drink alcohol (19.2 percent vs. 12.4 percent) and use marijuana (10 percent vs. 4.8 percent) than girls who are engaged in multiple (three or more) activities.

 Maternal Employment and Children’s Achievement in Context: A Meta-Analysis of Four Decades of Research
  • In general children with working mothers had similar academic achievement to non-working mothers
  • However having a working mother during middle school and high school was negatively associated with  academic achievement (Worse grades or test scores). 
 The author states this negative effect is “consistent with the position that less parental supervision may characterize families with employed mothers (Bronfenbrenner & Crouter, 1982; Montemayor & Clayton, 1983; Muller, 1995). It may also be a call for social interventions for this age group. Adolescents, who are too old for traditional child care and who may have more diversionary activities at their disposal than younger children, need structured activities after school and access to affordable, high quality after-school programs (Vandell, Pierce, & Dadisman,2005) in order to stay on track with their academics.”

Questions for you:
If a mom is at home because she cannot get a job, is her presence at home the same as the mother who chooses to stay home?
Do you think studies should determine why mothers are working or not working before including them in studies?

Friday, September 28, 2012

Why I am (now) a Stay at Home Mom




Back in 1998 I graduated from Baylor with my RN and I signed a 2 year commitment with my hospital to become a pediatric RN.  But my first daughter was due about 6 weeks before the commitment was up.  No big deal, I thought, I’ll go back after maternity leave and finish the 4 weeks and then stay home.  My husband’s job did not have health insurance so we planned to buy private insurance.
Fast forward to when my daughter was 31 days old.  We were admitted to Children’s Hospital for 8 days with Pertussis (whooping cough).  Praise God for my hospital health insurance, but now she didn’t qualify for private insurance.  And as a nurse I said, “We have to have insurance!”  So I cut my hours to the minimum that would still provide insurance and kept working two 12 hour night shifts a week.  Now I wonder if that was a lack of faith in God to provide on my part, but that was how I made the decision to keep working as a nurse. 
Now, at first I was shocked that it didn’t just kill me to leave my baby.  I actually enjoyed going to work.   And I eventually found a great Christian drop in day care.  I read all the studies I could find about kids with working moms.  And basically, I interpreted them all to say “it depends on if the mom is happy”.  A mom who is leaving her kids and hates it has kids who suffer from her leaving.  And a mom who stays home and hates it has kids who suffer from her being home.  I haven’t looked at any of the current research so I’m not sure if they have recently found anything different for little kids.  But around the time my second daughter was born I read an article about teenage girls.  NONE of the girls ages 12-15 who had a mom at home were smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or having sex.  Not all of the girls who had a working mom were doing those things, but NONE of the girls with a mom at home were participating in those risky behaviors. (So far I can’t find that article, but I will keep looking for it and I will check over the weekend for what the current research says about stay at home moms.)  My husband and I decided that one of us would need to be home after school when our daughters were 12-15 year old.

And now, its 2012 and our daughter is 12 and started Middle School this fall.  And I’m home.  It doesn’t hurt at all that my husband finished his Master’s and got his first job with health insurance.  Or that we just had our fourth and I get to stay home with him and our three year old son.  I am thinking God had a plan all along.

Thrive @ Home Thursday