But the topic of breastfeeding and sleeping through the
night has multiple angles. The first one
I will address is: when is it ok to let your baby sleep through the night if
she wants to? What I teach new moms is
that a newborn needs to nurse at least 8 times a day. Some of them want to nurse 10-12 times a day,
and if they do let them. Now, for a baby
to nurse 8 times in 24 hours they have to feed every 3 hours. If she is going to go 6 hours without nursing
at night, she will have to nurse every 2 hours for the other 16 hours of the
day. Nursing every two hours during the
day may be worth sleeping 8 hours at night.
Sometimes you can wake a baby to nurse every two hours during the day to
nurse and that will encourage them to sleep longer at night. But, remember that some newborn babies need
to nurse 12 times in 24 hours, and these babies will be nursing every two hours
already. And when you are counting
hours, you count from the beginning of a feeding to the beginning of the next
feeding. SO if a feeding takes 30
minutes, you will start again in an hour and a half.
Not all babies should be allowed to go 6 hours without
feeding. Basically, a tiny or hungry
baby may respond to being hungry by sleeping.
An easy going baby that has never been full will often times not tell
you he is hungry. A premature baby, a
baby who is not back to birth weight, or a baby who does not weigh 8 pounds yet
should not go longer than about three hours without breastfeeding. But, a baby that weighs 8 pounds or more and
is back to birth weight can wait up to six hours before nursing at night, but
ONLY if it is the baby’s idea. Don’t
force the baby wait that long. Basically, don’t set an alarm. If he wakes up or if you wake up in a puddle
of milk them nurse him.
So, let’s say that your baby isn’t
one of the babies who wants to sleep 6 hours at night starting at 2 weeks
old. What then? Well technically, sleeping through the night
is sleeping from midnight to 5am without waking up. By this definition, all but one of my
children have slept through the night by four months old. The National Sleep Foundation says 70% of 9
month olds sleep “through the night”.
That statistic is for all babies, not just breastfed or formula fed
ones. But if less than 20% of babies are
breastfed at 9 months old, then we know it is not only breastfed babies who are
not sleeping through the night at 9 months.
My first daughter slept 8 hours at night by the time she was
2 weeks and 12 hours straight at night
without nursing by the time she was 4 months old. My second daughter nursed every 3 hours on
the dot from birth until she was 9 months old.
I was young and didn’t particularly care. It was 7 later and I was older with
Jujube. Suddenly I cared that he slept
through the night. It seemed like
forever at the time, maybe because I was working full-time outside the home. Currently, the baby sleeps all night, about
11 hours, but he wakes once or twice to nurse most nights. I’m back to not really caring that I am
waking up at night. Maybe it is because
I think he is my last baby. Actually,
now that I think about it, I am a little late in teaching this one to self-settle
himself to sleep.
I have known plenty of mothers to give formula at night
trying to get their baby to sleep longer without success. That being said, by the time a baby has
doubled his birth-weight and is four months old, he should be able to go six to
eight hours without eating as long as he has already eaten all the calories he
needs for the day. This is easy to
determine with formula fed babies. But
not so easy with breastfed babies. And
breastfed babies nurse for more reasons than purely hunger, many continue to
want to nurse at night.
Come back tomorrow to see tips on getting your
baby to sleep through the night.
Love this reminder! My 20-month-old still wakes up at night, and we night-weaned in March. It's nice that my 11-week-old is sleeping at night, but I doubt that it will last for long, especially since her big sister has such trouble sleeping!
ReplyDeleteYou know that daughter that slept 12 hours a night by 4 months? She was waking up during the night when she was 2. I think it all changes with each developmental stage. I hadn't quite put together that your two were 20 months and 11 weeks. When you have two waking at night it makes it hard for mama to get enough sleep. But the season will pass, and if you are like me, you will miss it.
DeleteThanks for the post. I HATED being asked, "Is she a good baby?" and people meant, "Is she sleeping through the night?" I understand they what they were wanting to know, but wish people phrased the question differently.
ReplyDeleteI agree Charis. I have to tell myself that they are wanting to ask if I am getting enough sleep. If we are doing ok. Otherwise, I'll get snippy and say something like "of course she's a good baby". Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteMy daughter is 17-months and still wakes up every 3 hours at night. :)
ReplyDelete:) They do that don't they Jenni. I think the main question is, how is everyone in the family doing with the sleep schedule. Sometimes it is working, or working well enough. And sometimes, for whatever reason, we know something has to change. Eventually, they all sleep through the night...and not in mama's bed.
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ReplyDeleteThanks so much!
Katie Corley